Finding Happiness

I clearly remember those days when I thought a new car would make me feel better. Or a new boyfriend. Or a new job. Or moving to a new place. Yeah.

All those things are fun. For a short while. And I do believe we deserve those things and should celebrate when they happen.

But if you are looking for happiness in them, you won’t find it for long.

We also, at times, choose a quick fix like shopping, eating a hot fudge sundae, or having a movie day on the couch, to cope with life.

I’m sure you can name an unhealthy behavior that seems to distract you at the moment, to turn away from your uncomfortable feelings of pain, boredom, or unwanted emotions.

Those blasted feelings are always coming up and interrupting what could be a perfectly peaceful day!

But feel them we must. Maybe not in the exact moment they come up. But processing later by talking about what triggered you or writing it down, or thinking about it while exercising does help to process and transmute those pesky emotions.

If you continue to look for that quick-fix escape consistently, however, you may develop a habit. And this habit of not feeling the feelings will stuff them down into your body. And ya know what happens next?

Over time, stuffed down, unfelt emotions turn into negative stress and can cause dis-ease in the body. Eventually, they rise to the surface again. Sometimes they’ll pop up unexpectedly in inappropriate situations. Did that ever happen to you?

We’ve got to feel the feels and learn to release our triggers.

When you allow your emotions to come and go, they will flow easier through your body. When you can master this, I promise you, you’ll feel a lot happier. Even when the sh!t is hitting the fan.

When you look for happiness in things, like a car, house, or bank account, or when you want other people to act a certain way (so you’ll feel better), then you’ll be disappointed most of the time.

And of course, disappointment is one of those pesky feelings that we don’t want to feel and so we look for that quick fix.

Do you see how it’s kind of a vicious circle.?

Finding your happiness is truly is an inside job. When I work with clients, we often begin with self-acceptance, self-tolerance, self-reflection, and self-care.

I promise, when you have self-esteem, you will find happiness no matter what is going on outside and around you. You must listen to the Emerge. Evolve. Lead. podcast this week if you want to hear more.

All my best to you,

Maureen

On the podcast this week . . .

My guest on Emerge. Evolve. Lead. this week is Karen Seitz. Karen is a former spiritual healer who actually felt she was addicted to spirituality. She was trying to find her happiness in being a spiritual change agent but she was frustrated because her clients weren’t getting results and she felt like a fraud.

Finally she realized that her search for a spiritual process wasn’t going to help her until she went deep within herself and took full responsibility for accepting who she was. It’s a fascinating story that you’ll want to tap into.

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